Short-lived but…what a sweet reunion!

To any single parents out there, its bitter sweet when one has to leave. Unfortunately, my moment has come when I have to leave my mini-me. The short time spent seemed as if I never left since we connected like it was yesterday. We flooded each other with stories so rich that I can’t wait to catch up again.

To my baby girl, don’t let this parting hinder your own happiness. This will pass and it will be short-lived, focus on yourself because I’ll be supporting you always.

Just like the family of geese we saw yesterday, we’re still a family you and I; small but intact, so dry those tears and keep your chin up!

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You’re a smart girl, growing up as a smart young woman. Remember my home will always be open to you, its just a matter of time and you’ll find your own way too.

I’m so proud of you and you deserve all the happiness this world has to offer. For now I bid you a soft and sweet farewell, until June when I get to see you again.

Take care and know you are so loved not only by me but by everyone else in your circle. I just ask you to stay resilient and strong, not only for me but for yourself as well.

 

 

Desperate measures calls for makeup!

My mom always said “Being natural is always the best form of beauty.” Well, no matter how much I agree with her my facial acne continues to affect my interactions with anyone I come in contact with. Especially at work where I am constantly engaging with junior and high ranking individuals. Unfortunately, everyday that goes by, my mom’s mantra slowly diminishes as I desperately find facial routines that match my skin type before resorting to makeup as my last resort.

Due to instant gratification, I eventually I was drawn to the quick fix of makeup but due to me being a novice at it. My last resort ended up in binge watching Youtube tutorial videos of makeup gurus and drag queens do their makeup. Craziness! …but it was entertaining and yes I was that desperate.

Thankfully my practical side kicked in because this is where I admitted that, I needed to get the help of a local beauty sales rep named Norma. She was bossy and knowledgeable yet patient enough to show me a basic makeup routine. She made sure of basing it on my skin’s needs. Overall, she basically took me under her wing and in small baby steps, slowly transform an ugly duckling to a fledling in training. Granted, it was time consuming and expensive but I’m sure it has paid itself off. 20181218_215445

Thank you Ms. Norma!

 

Meet Stella, my hand bag…

Alright there are times when I just want to explore ways to make a statement not relying on clothes but with my accessories instead. Be it the jewelry, shoes, bags/purses with or without make-up. I get it, I’m one to push my own boundaries and so far its a handbag.

For the record, I did mention on a previous post of mine that I hate having to carry something like a body bag, purse, hand bag or hand candy. Whatever you want to call it, I need my hands free.

However, I feel that alone is more reason why I had to push against my laziness and comfort zone to finally carry one. I figured the only way I do it is if I carry something that is interesting, eye catching but practical at the same time.

Lo and behold, I found her. Meet Stella, my hand bag. She’s made of sequins and stitched embroidery. Even though “Pink Email” is quite obvious on her, I think Stella suits her well.

How about you, what is your go to statement and do you name your accessories too?

Fired due to dress code…

I read an article about a lesbian getting fired because she chose to wear men’s suits over the office dress code set for females. Of course the company insists the cause of her firing was due to her being late but she begs to differ.

I get the fact that unless its for safety reasons then yes I am for using proper dress code/uniforms, but I find it odd that being subjected to normal wear for the company to maintain its own self image might have to consider our changing times. Unless the company is representing or beliefs conservative/contemporary views then maybe employees should state the dress code and not hire those who clearly are against it.

Conservative/contemporary norms of wear is constantly being questioned at work. Therefore, if the job is getting done and unless there is a safety concern that the employee is clearly going against then yes I am for dress codes. If not, then I would suggest company policy needs to reconsider this matter.

Do you agree, disagree or indiferrent?

 

 

 

“Manly” look…

I noticed how the Androgynous look has always been in. When I was young going through fashion magazines, I wasn’t taken by it since I didn’t understand or see the beauty behind it, but now with shows such as Next Top Model and YouTube videos of runway shows I can finally appreciate the Androgyny look.

What I love is the flexibility behind the look and the way a female body can be bold and daring within a masculine attire but still be beautiful. The curves might be hidden by boxy shoulders or straight edged unflattering linear seams, but how the person carries themselves makes or breaks the entire look altogether. If you seem to be uncomfortable through your body language and/or stance, it only negates from your outfit. Therefore, finding confidence in yourself is crucial.

Girl, if you need to wear lingerie underneath your “manly” uniform/attire to find your confidence, go for it!

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What is your niche wear?

I had to consider this thought for awhile since my niche wear requires the act of not wearing a part of clothing. To most women its the one of the first things that comes off after a hard days work, and I’m not referring to shoes ranging from heels to combat boots.

Instead I’m referring to a small piece of clothing that evokes both a love and hate relationship among women…its none other than the restricting confines of a bra.

As a teen the wearing of a bra was my right of passage to womanhood. I could not wait to finally wear a pair that I looked forward to that day. Once I did, I was so ecstatic that I religiously wore one that it soon became a habit.

After years of bra wearing, I savor the times when I don’t have to specially inside the house. Eventually I was bold enough not to wear it with my outfits. At first, I was so self conscious of getting found out during my none wearing bra out in public that I end up second guessing myself, but eventually I got over it. Finally I’m enjoying the fact of not being top heavy because I can get away with it pretty easy. 20181020_152601

…and so they say, free the Ta-tas!

 

 

 

 

My pantsuit choice for a themed holiday party.

Alright, I raved about pantsuit wear so I decided to check out the local retail store (men’s wear section) for a checkered pantsuit. It worked out well since it goes with this year’s holiday theme of “The Great Gatsby.” I was drawn to the checkered look because I saw one online and it looked amazing. Unfortunately, my search started with numerous online sites that either do not ship to my location or I could not get a response when asked for more details especially when I don’t have the luxury to try it on. Besides, I don’t want to end up second guessing myself and hope for the best.

Fortunately, I managed to find one locally. Its not the checkered look I was aiming for but its a pantsuit that I cannot wait to showcase. What drew me to this suit was first it was on sale and you know by now that I’m not shy when it comes to bargains. Second it was red with enough pattern to make it more interesting instead of plain boring. Thankfully, I was lucky enough to have found the jacket in small with a matching 32W size pants.

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Another reason why I ignore the size because what matters most is the fit and comfort. Therefore, I plead to girls out there to not get bothered if your size increases or continue to increase. Vendors have their ways of sizing so try not to get bothered by a number.

Close up on the funky pattern.

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Overall, its how you carry yourself that matters. If what you wear brings confidence in you, it should not matter if you wear a sizeable pantsuit or not because at the end of the day, you better strut it girl!

 

Styling men’s cargo shorts/pants…

Cargo shorts or pants is such a staple in men’s wear that I just started incorporating it as part of my wardrobe. Typical girl/women’s fashion would not dare get caught wearing cargos but why not? It is such a practical pair to have, first of because of its pockets! I love the way how versatile a pair of cargos can carry not only a wallet but tools as well. Granted, I do not have hobbies that require tool carrying but the fact of having readily available pockets is always a great option to have. This means if I do not have to carry a purse, that’s a bonus for me.

Second, cargo shorts come in a variety of colors and designs that should make it more appealing to wear no matter ones gender. I for one own a pair of cargo shorts with camouflage in woodland pattern. I love styling it with a pair of black booties and a simple top. For accessories, I often pair it with silver hooped earrings and finished off with a thin oversized sweater jacket that hits just above my knee. In this way the cargo shorts merely peeks out every time I walk.

 

Other times, I do wear the cargo shorts in plain site as a statement piece with a simple top on a pair of either loafers or slides. Sometimes, yours truly likes to dress up in a more rugged look but only with a hint of femininity thanks to accessories such as statement earrings, bold sunglasses with a pop of red lipstick!

Overall, cargo shorts/pants is a unique piece for girls to wear that I enjoy pushing the envelope. For instance, cargos does not have to be casual, you can help glamorize it with a pair of heels topped with a fancy looking top. Of course accessorize as necessary, and if you want to push it even further add a surprise teaser by spritzing on a men’s fragrance. Bold move, bold statement.

You’re welcome!

 

 

Opting for a pantsuit instead of gowns/dresses

Wearing costumes has always been fun for me, from Halloween to any themed party. I noticed the same trends for women and girls alike wanting to be someone or something sexy. For me I get bored of the same thing so last year’s holiday party I opted to wear a custom made pin striped pantsuit with wine colored high heels. Sure enough, I was one of three women in trouser outfits while the rest came in dresses/gowns. This year is no different with the theme being “The Great Gatsby” I was eyeing a checkered suit to go with my black rimmed glasses and black loafers.

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Accessorizing it with either a fedora or newspaper boy cap. Another option was to wear a short bob wig or fix my hair in the 1920’s style, fashioning it with my mimosa scented pomade. Unfortunately, I can’t fit in my custom made pantsuit so I am still on the hunt for a secondhand pantsuit. I will try the local thrift shops such as The Salvation Army but I am still open to ordering online, any suggestions?

Wish me luck!

 

Definitely not basketball shorts…

I’d rather be comfortable yet fashionable because I don’t believe in going through any pain or discomfort just to be labeled as being “in fashion.” Therefore when I gained a few pounds and kept shoving myself in that small pair of shorts, my uncomfortable love handles were not having it so what’s a girl to do? Size up in the women’s section? Nope. Instead, I opted to wear men’s gym shorts!

First comes to mind are, basketball shorts which is baggy enough to fit me but at 5’3″ I might as well be wearing it like a skirt. Good thing I managed to find regular pairs of men’s gym shorts, better yet they were ON SALE!

I noticed the following differences between male and female gym shorts;

1. The pockets are large enough to carry a compact wallet, to include keys.

2. Gym short design provides a loose and comfortable fit.

3. The color scheme used tend to be heavy toned such as black and/or grey with only hints of lighter tone colors within its design.

4. For the best fit, personally try it on since the conversion between female to men sizes vary.

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